Starting Kindy – Top Tips to Prepare Yourself (and Your Child)

Are you about to enter the whole new world of school? Here are 10 tips to help you (and your child) prepare for this big, exciting milestone! UPDATED: January 2021

Starting Kindy

Having a child starting kindy is a time of mixed emotions – it’s exciting, worrying, happy, daunting, overwhelming, sad and you may feel a sense of relief. While no amount of advice or information will completely prepare you, it can come in very handy and help put your mind at ease a little.

I knew nothing about the school system in Australia, having grown up overseas. So it’s no surprise that I asked lots of questions when my eldest was starting kindy. While there’s a general system for the schools in Australia, some of the organisational parts differ from school to school. In the end, I learnt a lot of things through personal experience.

Here are 10 tips for preparing yourself as your child starts kindy. They’re a combination of what I learnt, advice from other local mums and some helpful articles*. But most importantly, they are the things I wished I’d known beforehand and found helpful being told about. And there will probably be others too, like the kindy daze you may experience.

Please remember, that no two kids are the same and it’s important to listen to your child’s needs, build good communication with them and let them open their new school world to you in their own time and way.

Children come to school at many different levels. Some will know how to count to 30 or write and others won’t. These skills will be practised and mastered throughout the school year. And you can help by continuing to reinforce them at home.

Don’t worry about grades or reading levels in kindergarten. Use them as a guide for feedback on what areas to work on at home, rather than letting them stress you out! What’s important is that your child is happy and is enjoying school, that’s a real achievement. The rest will come later.

Focus instead on explaining the basic school rules. Like putting up their hand to ask a question, asking to go the toilet, listening quietly when you need to and doing what the teacher asks. And make sure they can do a few important things on their own. Like going to the toilet, washing their hands, opening their lunch box and putting their things away (so they don’t misplace everything!). There’s a helpful ‘Getting Ready for School‘ handbook, produced by the NSW Department of Education, with a good checklist.

You can also help your child prepare emotionally by reading a children’s book about starting school. You could try Starting school by Janet and Allan Ahlberg, or Starting school by Jane Godwin and Anna Walker.

2Learn to Let Go

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The first day of kindy will be emotional for you and your child! Prepare some tissues and have something planned for after drop off (if you’re not rushing to work). Maybe a brunch with friends who have kids starting kindy too. Go see a movie or a swim. Anything! It’ll give you purpose and you’ll be less preoccupied with thinking ‘what are they doing at school?’. And you’ll feel less at a loose end when you give them your final wave goodbye

Once your child has passed the classroom step, you need to learn to let go. A little bit like the first day at childcare, but less tears, at least from your child (hopefully!). This is the place where your child will learn to make new friends, buy their own lunch from the canteen, put their hand up when they didn’t understand something in class and look after their own belongings, among many other things. Remember, that school not only teaches them academically but helps prepare them for adult life.

3But Keep an Eye Out too

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You are probably not going to get much elaborate feedback from your child about school. A lot of things happen and there’s a lot for them to take in over the first days (weeks/ months). Don’t let it discourage you if all you get from them is “I can’t remember” or “Uh, I don’t know.” I found that when I asked my daughter to tell me what they did when they got inside the class and ask specific questions about the activities or their peers, the details started flowing. Things like, ‘what book did your teacher read to you today’ or ‘who did you play with at lunch?’

Another good thing is to open communication with their teacher. But remember not to flood them with questions early in the morning before class. Best time is at pick up in the afternoon. Or even better, organise a specific time with the teacher. Remember you will likely have two teacher interviews per year, where more adequate feedback can be given. Plus give the teacher some time to get to know your child.

You can also learn the names of other parents from your child’s class, even if you’re busy rushing off to work. Host a mums or dads night out. Get to know your child’s friends. Ask who talks the loudest, who is the quietest, who is the most helpful, who brings what for lunch. Find out what makes them feel nervous or unsure – The big kids? The big halls? Losing their library book? – because something undoubtedly will.

4Your Child is Going to be Tired

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Starting school is a big change for your child (and you)! And they will likely be very exhausted, and a bit grumpy. So make sure they are going to bed early and keep the first few weekends fairly quiet. Plus, consider putting their after school activities on hold while they settle in.

5Make Lunch Easy to Eat

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There are going to be a LOT of distractions at lunch time so make their lunch as easy and quick to eat as possible. This will improve the chances of them eating it and leave more time for play. Which in turn will improve their concentration in the afternoon and reduce your stress levels worrying about whether they have eaten or not. Go with bite size pieces where possible and things they can easily open.

6Reduce the Morning Stress as Much as Possible

There will be a lot going on in the mornings before school. So make it as easy as possible for yourself and them, by preparing as much as you can the day/ weekend before. Like having lunch made, school uniform ready and bag packed.

7Their Belongings

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First of all, let me tell you how I spent $200 before kindy started on uniforms and backpack. Only to find out later that a lot of parents donate their children uniforms to the school shop and you can buy a dress for $2 second hand instead of $35. But this does vary from school to school, so best to ask.

Labelling their uniforms, lunch boxes, hats, bottles, is a must! Write their name down and maybe even the class number. You will be amazed how easy these things get forgotten somewhere on the school grounds. Their heads are still in the clouds and sometimes even year 6 kids forget their jacket or lunch box at school.

Also, don’t let them bring toys to school, especially their favourite ones. It happened to my daughter. She took her purple cat and some other child thought it was hers and kept it hidden under the desk for weeks. You don’t need that kind of drama!

8Get Involved at School

Volunteering at school, in whatever capacity your family can manage, has huge benefits. It will help with becoming part of the school community and good chance for you to learn more about the place where your child spends six hours without you. Plus, your child seeing you active at school is actually a real buzz for them.

From the first week of school your child’s backpack will be flooded regularly with notes, requests for money and supplies. You will be shocked, and then amazed, by the efforts that parents like yourself put into making schools better places for teachers and children. You will be tempted, pressured and compelled to give your time and maybe your money. Do what you can. Your contribution makes the entire school a better place for all its children.

9Difficulties at School

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If your child is having difficulty with another child in their class or outside, talk it over with their teacher first. The teacher knows both children and understands their classroom dynamic and may have a solution to try first. Only if you don’t see any resolution, ask to speak with the Assistant Principal and then Principal.

10Drop Offs and Pick Ups

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To help your child settle into the school day better, try getting there well before the bell. And picking them up on time, particularly in the beginning. This will be very helpful in making them feel more secure. And if you’re early for pick-up, it gives you a chance to meet other parents, and makes organising play dates easier (depending on covid restrictions of course!).

And if you aren’t sure where to park to drop and pick your kids up, check out the Safe School Parking Finder. It’s an online interactive tool covering 60 schools in and around Parramatta and shows you where you can safely and legally park around your child’s school.

* The helpful articles/ information included BubHub, Raising Children, NSW Department of Education, Ellaslist and Leapfrog.